Passion For Fashion Today's Trends Timeless & Effortless Sexy PJ's There's nothing like sexy PJs. Comfy, cozy, and feels good on your skin. It's not about what your partner wants, it's about you. Make yourself feel sexy all the time, day and night, regardless if you're in a relationship or not. Sequin Sequin is flashy yet fun, versatile, and flirty! Dresses, pants, blouses, and tanks, dress it up or dress it down! Animal Print The sexy, Leopard and snake print isn't going away anytime soon. It's classy and sassy! Shop these looks on Amazon!! The Sexy Black Dress Ooh La, La, that sexy go-to black dress! When in doubt throw a two-piece on. A bandeau and a high waist skirt to show off your womanly curves in a good way, accentuating the waist and highlighting those abs that you've been working on all summer long. This look gives you a pass to be fantabulous while flexing and strutting! Let's not forget our asymmetrical and form-fitting black dresses. These date night and party dresses are effortless and easy to wear. You can pair any of these looks with stilettos or sexy booties. Come dressed in any of these show-stoppers and you'll be sure to shut it down! Athleisure Wear Athleisure wear is always fun and versatile. You can go shopping in it, work out in it, go dancing, or wear it to hang out! It's also, super comfy, casual, and affordable depending on where it's purchased. You can find great deals on Amazon, Walmart, T.J. Maxx, and Marshalls. I always hit up the brand website first. However, around the holidays you can find some pretty amazing deals. I wear Athleisure wear Monday Through Friday and even on weekends depending on my vibe. I love to pair them with high heels in the summer and boots in the winter. This look pulls everything in, it's cool, sexy, and sporty. The Flares Let the battle begin! Flare vs Skinny??? Will you be packing up your skinny jeans to make room for the oh-so-lovely flare jeans?? These 2019 to current trends have been around for some time now. I've always had flares in my wardrobe for many years even as a child. I started wearing them again in 1998 and about 5 years ago up until now. I love this style because it's sexy and it gives your curves an hourglass figure. With holes or without, I'm rocking this timeless style until the end of time! Oh Holy Jeans Jeans are so popular and for decades, they've always been a thing. They're comfy, and now very stretchy, and affordable. My fav looks, are distressed, holy, skinny, flared, and high-waisted. Jeans are a great way to show off your personal style. What I love the most is that you can wear jeans with holes and no one will make fun of you. I love the way that each hole is strategically placed, so unique and sexy. They're great to wear all year round. In the winter, wear colored stockings are fishnets under them. You can see the pop of color peeping through the holes, I love it. Jeans are so freaking cool, I think every woman no matter the age should own a pair. Take a look inside and be inspired by some of my favorite picks. White Boots White is the new black when it comes to fashion. There are no more rules to live by here. You can wear white all year round, From bright white to off-white. You can wear a white T-shirt, sweater, denim jeans and last but not least some sexy and comfy white boots. Your white boots can also be paired with muted, dark, and multi-colored pieces in your wardrobe. If you're going to wear it, make sure you pare it well. for example, white boots, blue denim jeans, a white shirt or blue denim shirt, and blue denim jeans with a white purse and white boots. Make sure your pieces are cohesive and you'll be sure to have the look you're going for. Wearing white all year round is a home run in my book! FASHION CHECKLIST Dress to compliment your figure Wear your clothes with confidence Dress to impress yourself and not others Love the skin you are in and wear it well Always have a black or red versatile dress in your closet Always have a great pair of jeans Always have a pair of sexy stilettos or open-toe booties Be sure to have a solid-colored blazer or Kimono handy Lastly, invest in a sexy/basic white or black tee-shirt and dress it up with some bling and your favorite jeans, heels, and kimono Did you know you can make a fashion statement with your hair and your face? Of course, you can. Every day we dress, our bodies with clothes, our faces with makeup, and our hair with wigs, extensions, and hair color. Take a look inside and be inspired by my favorite, haircare , skincare , and makeup products . Get hairstyle ideas and more. SHOP BEAUTY PRODUCTS

Domestic Abuse, Poems, and Help NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! Children are off-limits, cute, tiny, and innocent. You promised me ice cream, but instead, you made me scream. Basements were dark and scary, you knew I was gonna cry. I asked, will the boogie man get me? You said no, take my hand and don't ask why! It was too late before I realized, it was all a big lie!!! There you stand before me, exposed right before my eyes!! You then took me, you hurt me! I was just a child, I could never hurt you; not even if I tried. I prayed to God, please make him stop, because each time you touched me, I wanted to kill myself, I just wanted to die! God answered my prayers. However, the damage was already done. Here I am a child, left violated, broken, and numb. As the years went by, I only had time to borrow, and there were many nights I cried because I wasn't looking forward to tomorrow. I wanted to end all the pain and feelings of despair. These thoughts inside my head were too much to bear. I can't keep reliving these memories, it's disrupting my life; it's so not fair. I prayed again, please help me, God! He said come to me, my child, lay your burdens at my feet. Believe and receive that I will set you free, I'll catch you when you fall, and I'll save you from it all. I believed and received, and because of the grace of God, I'm stronger and much wiser. So here I stand, a Queen and a Survivor! Written By: Theresa Woods NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! Parents, pay attention to your children. Have those uncomfortable conversations just to make sure they're good. Teach them early to run and tell that, and no matter what, always take action! Because children are always in the presence of adults when you're not around. Check them, coach them, let them know you'll protect them, and most importantly, tell them you love them, and it's not their fault, and then call your local authority to take action. WHO AM I I breathe the same air you do. I have two arms and two hands to hold you. I have two legs to stand up tall and feet to press against the pavement, the grass, and the sands in which my Lord walked on when he carried me when I got tired of running from you. I'm soft, like a delicate flower, with so many curves, but you use and abuse them, so no one else will want them. My hair can be worn short if I choose, but you hate it so you refuse to see me. You give me that look of disgust and call me Manish but I'm not! It's not even a word boo, boo, check your vocabulary. Who am I? My voice is softer than yours and on a low key, it can be raised on the highest key when I'm not heard. Although I have ears to hear you, they're damaged by harsh words loudly spoken through your voice, and by painful blows from your strong hands and feet. I constantly bob and weave dancing to your volatile beat. Who am I? You say I use my body and my mind as tools. If this is the case, why you don't know how to use them? Tools are supposed to work if you know how to use them right. Damn you got me feeling hella tight! So please tell me, who am I? Strong, emotional, sensitive, delicate, timid, kind, caring, loving, loyal, and insecure at times. Yes, I am, and I'm not afraid to say it. My creator made me this way, so yell at him, not me. I am a woman! I gave birth to a nation in rage, so don't blame me, you helped me create it. My past was filled with liars, letdowns, and leeches. Lord knows this wouldn't have happened if you found love within yourself and loved me as much as my creator but no, you hate her because you didn't make her. So I ask you again, who am I? Look, God gave you two arms and two hands to hold me, but you don't! God gave you two legs and two feet to stand beside me and stand up for me, but you won't! He gave you two ears to hear and understand me, but you refused to use them. God gave you two eyes to gaze upon mine so that you can realize that I am wonderfully, and fearfully made just like you, but you only see me as a competition and not an equal. Am I that powerful? He gave you lips to kiss mine and vocal cords to say I love you. I'm sorry, I understand, I believe in you, but instead, you want to destroy and break me down. How dare you! You came from my womb! This is how you repay me by trying to put me in a tomb? Who am I? I am your Mother, your Grandmother, your Sister, your Aunt, your Niece, your Girlfriend, your Wife, your Lover, your Partner, and your Ex! If I want, I can be your worst damn nightmare. Time after time, you've disrespected me and treated me like your enemy. Remember this, if nothing else, just as I brought you into this world; I can take you out, so never forget who I am! Never underestimate me. I am a woman, I am a child of God, I am a Queen, and I am wonderfully and fearfully made just like you! Written By: Theresa Woods QUEEN THERESA I Am A Queen I Am A Survivor NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! Sexual, physical, verbal, and mental abuse is unacceptable, and it's not your fault. Even though you were victimized, you're not a victim. You are a winner and a survivor. It's okay to cry, scream and shout! Whatever you do, get it all out. Then shake it off, stand tall, say enough is enough, and then take action for your life. Please see below how to seek help . To read my story, please click here. NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 1 Peter 3:7: In the same way, your husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. Each time a woman stands up for herself without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.” — Maya Angelou No woman has to be a victim of physical abuse. Women have to feel like they are not alone.” – Salma Hayek A Queens Anthem No longer will I accept bad or suspicious behavior, no longer will I be disrespected and violated, and no longer will I settle and play captain save a man down. I will no longer put others first before myself, I will no longer be an enabler. No longer will I accept disloyalty and no longer will I accept anyone who doesn't honor me as much as I honor them. I will no longer stop loving myself and love the person that I am with more than me. I will no longer say yes to everything and will start to say no when I am spent and uncomfortable. Last but certainly not least, I will no longer tolerate any form of abuse or anything that doesn't serve a good purpose in my life. ENOUGH! By: Theresa Woods Violence against women and children has to STOP! When you harass or vilify, you are not only disrespecting us but also yourself. Sexual, physical, verbal, and mental abuse are all acts committed by a person who in fact, has no self-love and no self-respect. Our innocent, precious children are our future and are off-limits, and women are a gift from God to love our partners and to bear our children! When we say NO! NO, means NO, and when we say STOP, you better STOP! Would you want someone to violate you? Think about it! Well, maybe someone did, and I'm sorry, but it doesn't give you the right to violate others. Get help and find it within yourself to love yourself and others. We are all God's children! Love Yourself Love yourself enough to take the actions required for your own protection and for your own happiness. Enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past and people. Enough to set a high standard for relationships with your partner, family, and friends. Enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner. Enough to forgive yourself. Enough to be strong and enough to move on. Remember, you are enough! Written By: Theresa Woods Just breathe Inhale exhale! Isaiah 40:30-31 Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall, but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. TAKE ACTION NOW!! If you or someone you know is suffering from child abuse or domestic violence, please call your local authority or report it at Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline a 24-hour hotline with resources to aid in every child abuse situation. All calls are confidential. Call or text,1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) for help, https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ Report domestic violence at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential or send a chat from their website at https://www.thehotline.org/help/ Take action now!!! As part of the healing process, if you are abusing substances to dull the pain of abuse or need resources on how to stop the abuse, please click on the link below or visit any self-help website that you are comfortable with. As long as you get help, that's all that matters. https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/resources/domestic-violence/ BACK TO HOME

Queen Spirit “Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, 1 Peter 1:8 (Lean on, trust and believe in him, smile and let your QUEEN light shine! Queen Spirit, To Be or Not To Be Spiritual It is your choice. However, coming full circle with oneself should include a spiritual side. I call it Queen Spirit. Having a spiritual side can help you find ways to deal with life’s roadblocks, and it can help you become more mindful, sympathetic, and empathetic. It may also help quiet your mind and soul from negativity. With spirituality comes prayer and meditation. Along with reading your daily bread , prayer can bring relaxation and faith, along with healing and feelings of hope, gratitude, and compassion. All of these can have positive effects on your inner peace and health. Meditation is also relaxing. It helps clear the mind and improves focus and concentration. In addition, a spiritual side also helps foster spiritual fellowship, and it improves your well-being. For example, joining a support or meditation group and attending or joining a church. Furthermore, finding social support, in general, may provide a sense of belonging, security, and community. On my final note, having a Queen Spirit may help you live a fulfilled and balanced life. Hugs and Love! By: Theresa Woods Kathleen Carman A Women of God & Summoned to Serve Founder John 17:8 for the words which You gave Me I have given to them, and they received them and truly understood that I came forth from You, and they believed that You sent Me. Allow me to introduce you to, prayer warrior Kathleen Carman and a member of Abundance Life Family Worship Church https://www.alfwc.org/welcome She is a counselor and minister of over 20+ years and a mother of 4. Her leadership skills are well, admired among her peers. Also, Kathleen holds yearly and successful women's conferences in Somerset, N.J. She's fearless and dedicated to God and her family. For years, her spiritual guidance has led many women and men to a better life. After reading her suggested scriptures and original material, I hope the takeaway here will be moving and uplifting for you. Prayer Changes Everything James 5:13-18: Healing prayer and the effectiveness of the prayers of the righteous Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. Is anyone happy? Let him sing songs of praise. Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. Elijah was a man like us. He prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for three and a half years. Again he prayed, and the heavens gave rain, and the earth produced its crops. I SEE YOU I see you when you cry, I wipe away your tears. I see you when you are lonely I'm with you, you are never alone. I see the widower, I am your husband, your man, the love of your life. I see the married one who feels alone, for I am there to aid you and embrace you. I see you my child when you pray, I have answered you. I see the weak, I have made you strong. I see you, the broken-hearted one, I'll put you back together again. I see you when you feel like you're not loved, know that I love you with an everlasting love. My beloved child, I am there like a mother who Embraces her child, and my arms surround you with my loving kindness and tender Mercy. I love you my child, and I see that you are single. Do you know that the Holy Spirit will lead you, guide you and be with you? I see you! I see you! I see you! Written by: Minister Kathleen Carman Sister, do you feel you are at the end of your rope, and you feel like there is no hope but yet you are still holding on? Scripture "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path" Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV) Additional Scriptures For Your Meditation Deuteronomy 28:11-13 Malachi 3:10-12 Philippians 4:19 Sister, have you ever thought that your Sister Girl would be in your corner and stay by your side through your ups and downs but abandoned you instead? I'll tell you, who will not leave your side. Scripture "One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (or sister)" Proverbs 18:24b (NIV) Additional Scriptures For Your Meditation Matthew 28:20 John 15:13 John 15:14 LET THEM KNOW I love them with Everlasting Love. Let them know I have drawn them with My love and kindness and tender Mercy. Let them know I am their friend when they feel friendless. Let them know I am their mother to the motherless. Let them know I am their father to the fatherless. Let them know that I am the healer of their broken hearts and their bodies. Let them know that I'm their counselor when they need a word of Hope. I am their joy and peace. I am the love of their life. I am their direction when they need direction. I am there when they need company when they are lonely. I am their hand when they need a hand to hold. I am their stability when they need to stand firm. I am their supplier when they are in need. I am their all and all, for I am God who knows all, sees all, and can do all that you ask, trust and have faith in me for I am. Given by God through the Holy Spirit. Read and receive healing for your soul and know that God is with you! Hallelujah! Written by: Minister Kathleen Carman Love Yourself — Psalm 139:14 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Click Here For Our Daily Bread BACK TO HOME

When you're feeling down, and need some inspiration or just a little motivation, scroll through my motivational playlist and pick a song to help boost your spirits. Music has healing power, it can soothe your mind, body, and soul. It can help you to discover who you are, it can help you to understand life and people. It gives you a voice and the courage to live and speak your truth. LeAndria Johnson - Deliver Me (Live) Jojo - I Am. Aqyila - Vibe For Me Beyonce - Break My Soul Tems - Free My Mind Ayah The Light - Good Vibes Jill Scott - Hate On Me Demi Lovato - Sorry Not Sorry Jojo - The Change Chloe - Feeling Good Chika - Crown Lauren Daigle - You Say

Why am I blogging about this sensitive topic? I have a platform and I'm not afraid to speak on topics that are uncomfortable, off the table, secret, and unspoken. With research and my own experiences, I find that some people are phobic when it comes to discussing topics that they're uncomfortable with and don't understand. Furthermore, they tend to push sensitive subjects like traumatic life events under the rug rather than cope and heal from them. They find it easier to talk about it privately than publicly. They find it easier to talk about how happy they are when they're not or about how blissful a family home they have when it isn't. Let's be honest, not all social media friends are happy campers. I'm talking about your closest social media friends, not the ones that you have forgotten along the way. Now, of course, some are genuinely joyful. They post about their projects, promotions, accomplishments, birthdays, illnesses, or someone else's. They also post about the loss of loved ones, and on most occasions, they post pictures, jokes, positive quotes, and prayers. These are all meaningful posts. I'm not minimizing any of them, because I'm one of those people. However, if you check my feeds you will notice that I also post about mental health. Oh, the stigma of it all! Look, I'm not the only one. There are others too but you don't see them too often because those types of posts get overlooked. They normally don't pop up in the top popular posts/feeds. Hmm? FB & IG, what's up with that? Especially with the Pandemic and illnesses due to Covid-19. One would expect that mental health would be promoted as well. Thank God for social media Influencers and celebrities that use their platform to address it, like Taraji P. Henson and many others. My fellow queens, let me ask you this? Do you sometimes randomly come across a post where the person says (I hate life, I'm mad as hell, I'm about to snap! Why do people keep FN with me!? How about negative dark quotes or “Please Pray For Me” with nothing to follow? How about people who use social media to fight with family and friends? Oh, and what about people who post encrypted messages that are borderline suicide notes? Well, guess what? I have. Several years ago, I posted a suicide note and one of my family members noticed it immediately and called for help. Paramedics rushed me to the hospital, and I was lucky to have survived my attempt. It happened in the wee hours of the morning, so only a couple of people noticed it and my family had time to remove it before anyone else did. A couple of days later, I was told that one of my long-time, long-distance friends posted on my wall and told me how much she loves and appreciates me and how much I inspired her through some of her toughest times. Even though she didn't know about what I did, she was compelled to send me that message. Along with my family and other friends' support, that right there gave me a purpose to live. It's probably hard to fathom why anyone would want to end their life. It's a sin, but when you snap, you're not thinking about that sin or anything else for that matter. You just want the pain to stop, but there are other ways. We simply need to know how to purge severe past pain within to seek atonement and resolve. Sadly enough, most people don't have the will nor the tools in life to know how to. Do you think people need help that use social media as an outlet? Have you ever tried to help someone on social media? Have you ever wondered if you were to help, would it make a difference in their lives? I know, sometimes we can't help everyone, but we can at least try to help one. So how do we help? There are many obvious ways. My way of helping is through my website, where I know I can reach thousands of people. This is my way of helping and giving back to my community and with hopes, that it will help someone. I became a blogger because I care and I've had some traumatic events happen to me in my life, I want people to know that they are not alone. There are a good deal of self-help/blog websites, but I tried to be unique by creating a diverse, multicultural, women's online blog magazine where I blog on just about everything, the good, the bad, and the ugly. My site is all about women empowering women. However, my content is for everyone. We are all Queens and Kings, let's try to fix each other's crowns when they are falling off. I hope you will find a takeaway when reading (Purge Severe Past Pain Within To Seek Atonement And Resolve. I hope you will also take a peek inside (Today's Queen Life and Style) and be inspired. Purge Severe Past Pain Within To Seek Atonement And Resolve What is severe pain when it comes to emotional and mental health? It's psychological pain. Mental or emotional distress or suffering or to make suffer or cause distress to. Mental pain or emotional pain is an unpleasant feeling of a psychological, non-physical origin. Intense and unbearable mental (psychological) pain is defined as an emotionally based extremely aversive feeling which can be experienced as torment. It can be associated with a psychiatric disorder or with severe emotional trauma caused by many forms of abuse or by the passing of a loved one. A pioneer in the field of suicidology, Edwin S. Shneidman, described it as "how much you hurt as a human being causing mental suffering and mental torment. Atonement is a reconciliation of God and humankind through Jesus Christ or a confession of sins. Atonement is what a person seeks from another to correct or acknowledge previous wrongdoings, either through direct action to undo the consequences of that act or to seek some other form of atonement by expressing feelings of remorse. When you atone, you are taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable for the pain you have caused another. You are aware and can ask for forgiveness, and never afflict that pain upon anyone again. Purge or Purging. Although there are many definitions, here are some examples that we rarely use. To purge is also to rid (someone or something) of an unwanted quality, condition, or feeling. To free someone or something from (an unwanted quality, condition, or feeling). To physically or spiritually remove or expel (something) completely. Atone for or wipe out completely. When you purge you are forever getting rid of and saying goodbye to whatever is that's not good for you. You can lift your hands and say I rebuke you in the name of the Lord, you can lift your hands and say stop, you don't live in my heart, thoughts, or home anymore. You can lift your hands and say Hallelujah, I am free! Psalm 118:5 Out of my distress, I called on the Lord; the Lord answered me and set me free. Why do we hurt people? Luke 6:45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. James 4:1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? Have you ever heard the expression, Hurt people, hurt people? With that being said, the victimizer who caused the affliction is the result of their past hurt from the sins of others who have afflicted pain upon them or in some cases have not had any affliction but instead have an evil entitled spirit and/or chemically imbalanced. So in return, they afflict pain upon you. A stranger or someone you know, and no one can hurt you more than the ones you love and trust. Whether you know the person or not, harming a person for no justification is not only abusive but it's also a form of bullying. When you afflict abuse that causes severe pain, either physical or verbal, you are disrespecting boundaries, you are dishonoring and tormenting which can cause a person to be traumatized for life. Why do we hold onto emotional pain? Because we are afraid to ask for help and in fear of shame or in fear of disbelief from others. Why do we keep the pain behind closed doors? Due to family and friend ties, sometimes it's easier to hold onto the secret and stay in the pain than to do anything about it. Why do we sacrifice our own emotions for the sake of others' happiness? Because feelings are involved we want to avoid conflict, so we hold onto emotional pain to keep the peace and remain connected to the person who caused our pain. Why do we keep holding on to something that happened so long ago? Because we harbor resentment and sometimes we hold onto emotional pain because we don't have the tools in life to release the pain and move on. When I say move on, what I mean is to move on to never talk about it, nor relive the pain again, but is that conceivable? No, it's not because as long as we have a memory, we will always remember those moments that caused us severe pain. This is called PTSD or post-traumatic syndrome. PTSD is a grave psychological illness, it can cause a person to completely snap which can result in hospitalization and suicide. I suffer from PTSD and even though I've struggled to move on from the pain, I have been able to move on with my life because I've always been a functional person. No matter what comes my way, I've always been a goal-oriented, functional, and focused person. I've accomplished many things while still holding onto pain. Some people are unable to do that and those are the people rambling and wandering, aimlessly in the middle of a street. You would never know that I was in so much pain, not unless you're one of the closest people to me. Like me, there are so many beautiful and wonderful Queens holding on to past pain. It could be you or the person right next to you, a family member, or a friend. They greet you with a smile and look forward to spending precious moments with loved ones, and each day they show up and try to be normal. All for the sake of making everyone happy, they mask their pain. They walk around like their lives are so perfect by portraying an image or a character that they think others want to see them as. They tend to be those people who do the most and love the hardest. They are also, easily, disappointed. They shut down and in some cases never return to being the same. Why? Because they are now blocking their heart from ever being hurt again. Even though they may still love and care for you, they can no longer trust you with their heart. Usually, they resort to these measures because they've already been down that road before. They have absorbed all options and have decided to let go and let God. Why should we purge to seek atonement? Although it's not a perfect world, hearts are built to live and love, and that's why it's important to purge and seek atonement because you must speak your truth and then heal. If not with them, then a therapist, counselor, or minister. Because it is only then that you will learn to live and love in a way that you've never done before. Whether they're still in your life or not, and if you haven't had one already, take that first step and ask them for that sit-down and know that there’s nothing wrong with holding them accountable for the pain that they've caused you. You can call them of course, but then you might set yourself up for a disconnect, it's easier to hang up the phone than to leave. When face to face, there are levels of emotions to witness, and if the vibe is good, positive emotions lead to touching. If the emotions are reciprocated, you can hold hands, hug it out, laugh, and cry. Oh, the mighty power of touching! My fellow Queen, I'm asking you? Have you ever wanted to let someone know the damage they've caused you? Have you ever wanted to let them know why you are the way you are Queen, are you afraid to ask them for an apology because you fear you may never receive one? Is important for you to speak your truth, is it important for you to be set free? Are you sick and tired of being weary and holding your peace? Queen, you don't have to be muted anymore toward somebody who's mistreated you, verbally, physically, mentally, and or sexually. Even if you know they are nearby, you don't have to be silent if you are still connected to them in some way. You may love or hate them but I want you to know today that you don't have to mask those hurtful feelings and you don't have to be afraid to disrupt those connected relationships or the lifestyle that you’ve created surrounding them. It's not about them, it's about you and your healing. Sit face to face and let them gaze upon the Queen that you are. With style and grace, come to the table, prayed up, be peaceful, and focused, and be prepared for the outcome. Let me ask you this, even if you don't want nor desire a sit-down if given the opportunity would you take it? I would and I have because holding onto severe past pain can cause so much damage. It can cause sickness and depression. It can affect your relationship with God and your everyday well-being and interaction with people in general. Holding on to pain can make you suicidal because it's embedded in your memory. Without processing the event that caused the pain, you may have forgiven someone and sincerely meant it at the time. However, because we failed to process it, our memory keeps reliving those hurtful moments over and over again, and with that comes new pain that ignites the slightest triggers; that can send you over the edge! Those are just a few reasons why it's necessary to purge to seek atonement, but wait there's more! Foremost it's necessary to be well and fully engaged in life. It's important to love yourself and to breathe again. It's essential to build and bond better relationships with others and with yourself. It's okay to renew your broken heart and restore your faith. When purging you are setting yourself free and your spirit will be lifted. Your mind, soul, and heart will have a revival. It may bond that relationship and make it stronger. It may even help you to remove that toxic person from your life for good. Even though the process may be unnerving, the pain in your heart, mind, body, and soul will cease. As long as you are willing to let it go, it will go, one at a time. Get out of your way so that you can let yourself triumphantly get through the fearless journey of resolve. Remember that when you have resolved to have that sit-down, it's about purging. It's about forgiveness and coming full circle with one's self. It doesn't mean that your truth is their truth and vice versa, so be prepared for renunciation. It doesn't mean you have to accept that person back into your life, it doesn't mean that you will pick up where you left off as if nothing ever happened. Things will take time, remember Rome wasn't built in a day. If anything, accept the consequences, forgive, leave in peace, and wish them well. As I stated previously, I had my sit down and I must tell you, the outcome was a wonderful revival, and we are in a much better place now and by the grace of God, I am healed! My Queen, I pray for the same for you. If you decide to purge to seek atonement, my advice to you is, to choose wisely and discern that spirit first, some spirits are not worth a chat. Also, not everyone is as approachable, accepting, and receiving as the next. 1 Peter 5:8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy, the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Furthermore, choose your meeting place wisely, where you feel secure and comfortable. Come in peace and no matter what, stay composed. If at any time, you feel any hostility or threatened, leave immediately. Let's hope and pray it doesn't resort to that. Remember, it's the process of sorting through the pain. Coming to the point of forgiveness may be labor-intensive because it can be easier to harbor resentment than it is to cultivate love. Above all else chose love because, with it, you can still walk away to agree to disagree. 1 Peter 1:13 Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. James 1:19-20 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. If you choose not to have a sit-down, I encourage you to get help. Help is just a prayer and phone call away. Ask the Lord for help and then let the holy spirit guide you. Speak with someone you know and trust or a therapist, counselor, or preacher. You can even Google help hotlines. Help is out there so please get help and be well my beloved. As part of the healing process, if you are abusing substances to dull the pain of abuse or need resources on how to stop the abuse, please click on the link below or visit any self-help website that you are comfortable with. As long as you get help, that's all that matters. https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/alcohol-abuse/alcohol-hotline/ A special message to anyone who's reading that has mistreated someone. I challenge you to make amends and have that uncomfortable conversation. The choice is yours. Perhaps there's an underlying issue within you and not necessarily an actual issue with the person that you hurt. Whether you hurt them, verbally, mentally, physically, or sexually, find it within yourself to purge and atone. Set yourself free and ask the Lord for forgiveness and then forgive yourself. Hebrews 12:14-15, Strive for peace with everyone, and the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springs up and causes trouble, and by it, many become defiled. If peace is impossible between you and the afflicted one or the person who has afflicted that pain on you, then have peace within yourself. Call on the holy spirit of God and ask for forgiveness and be at peace with yourself and any decisions that you have made. My fellow Queen, trust and believe in the process and know that there is nothing more important than you. With prayer, hope, and faith, you can annihilate whatever demons that may come your way. If you want to heal, you must trust in and repeatedly work through the process until the desired forgiveness settles permanently into your heart. It may take time, maybe weeks, months, or years, but no matter what keep pushing through it. If you must, because you have absorbed all options; as stated earlier, then let go and let God. Choose to be at peace with yourself and others. Surround yourself with people who have your best interest at hand and immerse yourself with positive energy. And, don't forget to smile, and hug yourself daily. Because Queen, you are loved, and wonderfully, fearfully created in the eyes of the lord. You are on your way to wellness! What is wellness? Wellness is an individual pursuit. We have self-responsibility for our own choices, behaviors, and lifestyles, but it's also significantly influenced by the physical, social, and cultural environments in which we live. Wellness is also associated with an active process of being aware and making choices that lead toward an outcome of optimal holistic health and well-being. Wellness is about more than just physical health. Most models of wellness include at least 6 dimensions. Physical: A healthy body through exercise, nutrition, sleep, etc. Mental: Engagement with the world through learning, problem-solving, creativity, etc. Emotional: Being in touch with, aware of, accepting of, and able to express one’s feelings (and those of others). Spiritual: Our search for meaning and purpose in human existence. Social: Connecting with, interacting with, and contributing to other people and our communities. Environmental: A healthy physical environment free of hazards; awareness of the role we play in bettering rather than denigrating the natural environment. https://globalwellnessinstitute.org/what-is-wellness/

So I will just get straight to the point! I tried to kill myself but thank God I was saved and I'm here today to fulfill my dreams and to be here for the loved ones in my life. I realize that I am a child of God, I am a Queen, I have a purpose, I do matter, and I am beautiful, gifted, and talented! Thank God and Thank God for my family, my friends, prayer warriors, medication, and therapy. I asked you today, what does mental illness look like? It looks like you, me, and anyone in the world. I have attempted suicide a couple of times in my life and as early as my childhood, I suffered from mental illness. I never knew why or what was happening to me. I've had some very happy moments in my life and I've had some very traumatic moments too. Even when I'm happy, mental illness strikes, and for no apparent reason. In the past, I couldn't understand it, it was unexplainable, an ongoing battle from therapy to hospitalization. After several years of going through this, finally I went to see a specialist and was clinically diagnosed. Now I understand in my life what I need to do to make sure that I am well and safe. If you suffer from mental illness please get help it's no joke. If you know someone who suffers from mental illness, I'm asking you today to be sensitive to what you say to people who are mentally ill, it could trigger them. Be kind, be patient, be thoughtful, and don't judge them. Instead, love them, support them, and get them help. We are not exempt from mental illness. While some experience mental illness only once in their life (depending on the illness, environment, life stressors, and genetics), others battle mental illness for the rest of their lives. Some of us think that we don't have a problem and truly believe that everyone else is the problem. Unfortunately, these myths and illusions force us to suffer in silence and not seek treatment. Mental illness affects everyday functional people, and it's not limited to the homeless man talking to himself. It impacts a person’s emotions, perceptions, and behaviors. Afro-Americans suffer from mental illness just like their white counterparts. Afro-Americans are more likely to be at risk for developing a mental condition than any nationality. In fact, when you think of everyday stressors, systematic racism such as police brutality, education and health care gaps, and sexism that impacts Afro-American women. This is a perfect time to shed light on what many deem a nonexistent problem. Schizophrenia, post-traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder, major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, dissociative identity disorder/multiple personality disorder, bulimia, ADHD, OCD, and social anxiety are examples of mental illnesses that people battle daily. Mental illness is just as serious as any other disease and those affected by it should not be judged or outcast. Mental illness is a flaw in brain chemistry, not a character flaw, a rich people problem, or a white people problem. Don't be part of the problem, get educated and help someone today! Please scroll down and see the list of people who have committed suicide or have tried. Please also scroll down to see images of them as well. May they find healing and may they rest in peace! Attempted---- Oprah, Halle Berry, Tamar Braxton, Fantasia, Drew Barrymore, Elton John, Owen Wilson, Princess Diana of Wales, Eminem, Mike Tyson Suicides---- 1. Anthony Bourdain Producer | Anthony Bourdain: No Reservations Died June 8, 2018, at age 61, by hanging himself 2. Stephanie Adams Self-made millionaire, Actress/Secret Lives of Women. Play Boy Bunny She died May 18, 2018, at age 47, by jumping out of a 25th-floor hotel window after first throwing her 7-year-old son out of the window in a murder-suicide 3. Simone Battle Actress | Zoey 101 Died September 5, 2014, at age 25, by hanging herself 4. Kurt Cobain Singer-songwriter, Soundtrack | Moulin Rouge! Died on April 5, 1994, at age 27, of a self-inflicted gunshot wound; his body lay undiscovered for at least 3 days. 5. Don Cornelius Soul Train Host, Soundtrack | Nutty Professor II: The Klumps Died February 1, 2012, age 75, of a self-inflicted gunshot wound. 6. Margot Kidder Actress | Superman Died May 13, 2018, age 69, of a drug and alcohol overdose 7. Marilyn Monroe Actress | Some Like It Hot Died August 4, 1962, age 36, of an overdose of barbiturates 8. Rob Pilatus Singer from the group Milli Vanilli, Actor | Das Erbe der Guldenburgs Died April 2, 1998, age 32, of an alcohol and drug overdose 9. Mark Salling Actor | Glee Died on January 30, 2018, at age 35, by hanging himself from a tree in a local park 10. Jas Waters Writer | What Men Want, "This Is Us" and "Hood Adjacent with James Davis" Died June 9, 2020, age 39 by hanging herself 11. Robin Williams Actor | Mrs. Doubtfire Was an Oscar winner and 4-time Oscar nominee. Died on August 11, 2014, at age 63, by hanging himself. To learn more, CLICK THE BELOW LINK https://www.todaysqueenlifeandstyle.com/post/anti-depression