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Domestic Abuse, Poems, and Help

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NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! 

Children are off-limits, cute, tiny, and innocent.  You promised me ice cream, but instead, you made me scream.  Basements were dark and scary, you knew I was gonna cry. I asked, will the boogie man get me?  You said no, take my hand and don't ask why! It was too late before I realized, it was all a big lie!!! There you stand before me, exposed right before my eyes!!  You then took me, you hurt me!  I was just a child, I could never hurt you; not even if I tried.  I prayed to God, please make him stop, because each time you touched me, I wanted to kill myself, I just wanted to die!

 

God answered my prayers. However, the damage was already done. Here I am a child, left violated, broken, and numb.  As the years went by, I only had time to borrow, and there were many nights I cried because I wasn't looking forward to tomorrow. I wanted to end all the pain and feelings of despair. These thoughts inside my head were too much to bear.  I can't keep reliving these memories, it's disrupting my life; it's so not fair.  I prayed again, please help me, God! He said come to me, my child, lay your burdens at my feet.  Believe and receive that I will set you free, I'll catch you when you fall, and I'll save you from it all.  I believed and received, and because of the grace of God, I'm stronger and much wiser.  So here I stand, a Queen and a Survivor!

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Written By: Theresa Woods

NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! 

Parents, pay attention to your children. Have those uncomfortable conversations just to make sure they're good.

 

Teach them early to run and tell that, and no matter what, always take action! Because children are always in the presence of adults when you're not around.

 

Check them, coach them, let them know you'll protect them, and most importantly, tell them you love them, and it's not their fault, and then call your local authority to take action. 

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WHO AM I

I breathe the same air you do. I have two arms and two hands to hold you.  I have two legs to stand up tall and feet to press against the pavement, the grass, and the sands in which my Lord walked on when he carried me when I got tired of running from you. I'm soft, like a delicate flower, with so many curves, but you use and abuse them, so no one else will want them. My hair can be worn short if I choose, but you hate it so you refuse to see me. You give me that look of disgust and call me Manish but I'm not! It's not even a word boo, boo, check your vocabulary.

 

Who am I?

My voice is softer than yours and on a low key, it can be raised on the highest key when I'm not heard. Although I have ears to hear you, they're damaged by harsh words loudly spoken through your voice, and by painful blows from your strong hands and feet. I constantly bob and weave dancing to your volatile beat. 

 

Who am I?

You say I use my body and my mind as tools. If this is the case, why you don't know how to use them? Tools are supposed to work if you know how to use them right. Damn you got me feeling hella tight! So please tell me, who am I? Strong, emotional, sensitive, delicate, timid, kind, caring, loving, loyal, and insecure at times. Yes, I am, and I'm not afraid to say it.  My creator made me this way, so yell at him, not me. I am a woman! I gave birth to a nation in rage, so don't blame me, you helped me create it.  My past was filled with liars, letdowns, and leeches. Lord knows this wouldn't have happened if you found love within yourself and loved me as much as my creator but no, you hate her because you didn't make her.

 

So I ask you again, who am I?

Look, God gave you two arms and two hands to hold me, but you don't!  God gave you two legs and two feet to stand beside me and stand up for me, but you won't!  He gave you two ears to hear and understand me, but you refused to use them.  God gave you two eyes to gaze upon mine so that you can realize that I am wonderfully, and fearfully made just like you, but you only see me as a competition and not an equal.  Am I that powerful? He gave you lips to kiss mine and vocal cords to say I love you. I'm sorry, I understand, I believe in you, but instead, you want to destroy and break me down.  How dare you! You came from my womb!  This is how you repay me by trying to put me in a tomb?


Who am I?

I am your Mother, your Grandmother, your Sister, your Aunt, your Niece, your Girlfriend, your Wife, your Lover, your Partner, and your Ex!  If I want, I can be your worst damn nightmare. Time after time, you've disrespected me and treated me like your enemy. Remember this, if nothing else, just as I brought you into this world; I can take you out, so never forget who I am!  Never underestimate me. I am a woman, I am a child of God, I am a Queen, and I am wonderfully and fearfully made just like you! 

 


Written By: Theresa Woods

QUEEN THERESA

I Am A Queen I Am A Survivor

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NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! 

Sexual, physical, verbal, and mental abuse is unacceptable, and it's not your fault. Even though you were victimized, you're not a victim. You are a winner and a survivor. It's okay to cry, scream and shout! Whatever you do, get it all out. Then shake it off, stand tall, say enough is enough, and then take action for your life. Please see below how to seek help.

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NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A QUEEN! 

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

1 Peter 3:7: In the same way, your husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

Each time a woman stands up for herself without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.” — Maya Angelou

No woman has to be a victim of physical abuse. Women have to feel like they are not alone.” – Salma Hayek

A Queens Anthem

No longer will I accept bad or suspicious behavior, no longer will I be disrespected and violated, and no longer will I settle and play captain save a man down. I will no longer put others first before myself, I will no longer be an enabler. No longer will I accept disloyalty and no longer will I accept anyone who doesn't honor me as much as I honor them.
 
I will no longer stop loving myself and love the person that I am with more than me. I will no longer say yes to everything and will start to say no when I am spent and uncomfortable. Last but certainly not least, I will no longer tolerate any form of abuse or anything that doesn't serve a good purpose in my life. ENOUGH!

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By: Theresa Woods

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Violence against women and children has to STOP! When you harass or vilify, you are not only disrespecting us but also yourself. Sexual, physical, verbal, and mental abuse are all acts committed by a person who in fact, has no self-love and no self-respect. Our innocent, precious children are our future and are off-limits, and women are a gift from God to love our partners and to bear our children! When we say NO! NO, means NO, and when we say STOP, you better STOP! Would you want someone to violate you? Think about it! Well, maybe someone did, and I'm sorry, but it doesn't give you the right to violate others. Get help and find it within yourself to love yourself and others.  We are all God's children!

Love Yourself

Love yourself enough to take the actions required for your own protection and for your own happiness. Enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past and people. Enough to set a high standard for relationships with your partner, family, and friends. Enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner. Enough to forgive yourself. Enough to be strong and enough to move on. Remember, you are enough!

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Written By: Theresa Woods

Just breathe Inhale exhale!

Isaiah 40:30-31

Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall, but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

 

Jeremiah 29:11

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

TAKE ACTION NOW!!

If you or someone you know is suffering from child abuse or domestic violence, please call your local authority or report it at Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline a 24-hour hotline with resources to aid in every child abuse situation. All calls are confidential.

 

Call or text,1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) for help, https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ Report domestic violence at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential or send a chat from their website at https://www.thehotline.org/help/ 

Take action now!!!

As part of the healing process, if you are abusing substances to dull the pain of abuse or need resources on how to stop the abuse, please click on the link below or visit any self-help website that you are comfortable with. As long as you get help, that's all that matters. https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/resources/domestic-violence/  

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