THE PURSUIT OF LOVE &
HAPPINESS

Every Queen wants to be in love and live happily ever after. God didn't make us to live alone. However, relationships take a lot of work. There are so many failed relationships, and it's sad to know that even the best couples you were rooting for didn't last. So like you, I am also trying to find the secret formula on how to make a relationship last forever. Listen, I'm not a relationship expert, but I've had my fair share of experiences.

I've had short and long-term relationships, and I've been married and divorced twice, and I'm currently engaged. I'd be lying if I said my relationships were perfect. I was in abusive relationships, where I had a shotgun and knife pointed at my face, and I was stalked and attacked on several occasions. I've been lied to and cheated on, and with several I'm sorry's and failed couples therapy, I checked out of the relationships and lived like I was a single woman. I filed for divorce each time, yes. However, I couldn't wait for it to be final; I wanted out! I have to admit that I've had great, long-term relationships too, but had to end them due to a lack of commitment. Marriage was on the table but never served.

 

After a few years of being with someone, naturally, you want to take it to the next level. Although I ended relationships because of this, sometimes it made me want to throw my hands up and say; I can't do this marriage thing again, but I prayed and said to God, even though they weren't marriage material, I am. Besides, I'm in God's favor, and I believe in the union of marriage and what it stands for. However, God gives me the wisdom to know when it's time to walk away.

 

He doesn't want us to be unhappy, nor does he want us to be in harm's way. In my pursuit of love and happiness, I've learned that not every partner you fall in love with will mistreat you, lie or cheat on you. I've learned that even the sweetest guy is not perfect, and neither am I. I've learned that no matter what, first and foremost, put God first, love yourself, communicate effectively, be mindful and live a balanced and honest life. I've learned that being alone is okay, and having a partner does not complete me. However, with one, it makes life just a little bit sweeter. 

 

Written By: Theresa Woods

What does your pursuit of love and happiness look like? Are you in pursuit of it or have you given up?  When we let life get us down, we start to doubt the good in us and other people. We end up feeling alone and unlovable.

 

When you're not committed to someone and have been single for a while, you might begin to lose hope that you will ever find someone who loves you for you. When time passes by, you sit back and watch all your friends in long-term relationships, engaged or already married.

 

Deep down inside, you want to grow old with someone, but there's doubt that it may never happen.  The extremity of this doubt comes into play when you feel unloved or not worthy to be loved, admired, desired, or even considered.  

 

Maybe high standards have gotten in the way that no one could meet because you've set the bar too high, or maybe it was lovers who've played you like a fiddle and had broken your heart into tiny little pieces.  Because of that, you've decided to go it alone, because maybe you think no one will care for you in the way you want them to.

Written by: Theresa Woods

Hopeless Romantic

Do you believe that your perfect person exists? In this case, a partner who will always be there for you, who will always be supportive of you and do everything you say, who will never hurt you, and who will never leave you. In a perfect world, life is grand, and everyone is worthy of love! It's not perfect, and it's not always butterflies and roses.

 

However, if you can overcome your doubt of being alone and overcome your fear of giving love another try, and learn how to step out of your comfort zone and try something new, you'll learn to connect with the hope of having a partner sent just for you. Be willing to change; people, places, and things and invite the newness in, and when you hear the whispers in your head that tell you that you are unlovable and will end up alone, acknowledge that those whispers are not of God, and then say, I Am A Queen! You are worthy of love! Please know that. Hugs and Love!

 

Written By: Theresa Woods

Love, Lust & Trust

Sexual frustration, temptation, finances, and mid-life crises, in my opinion, are the root of all evil in relationships. However, God-fearing relationships with a strong bond may be luckier than one without. Having a strong bond makes it easier for couples to trust God, and each other enough to talk openly about their desires, needs, and disappointments; before sabotaging the relationship.

While having conversations with couples, they've shared that practicing awareness helps them communicate freely if disagreements and thoughts of infidelity arise. It also helps to build a stronger relationship. Well, kudos to them, but what about couples who are less bonded and become more complacent? What about when one partner gives their all and has everything to offer in a relationship, but still gets deceived?

The bottom line is you can be Mr. Rogers or Mary Poppins and still fall by the wayside. Love, lust, and trust go hand in hand. Some people love to lust over something new. At some point in a relationship, it may happen. With unresolved underlying issues, those lustful yearnings will transform into actions, and unbeknownst to the soon-to-be brokenhearted, they have no opportunity to intervene.

 

With that being said, put your trust in God, man is just a man. Rebuke lust so that true love prevails! Work as a team when it comes to finances, make date nights and sexy time a priority. Pray together to stay together. Take notes and be aware of the changes in your partner, appearance, schedule, and behavior. If it doesn't work out, know when to walk out. It's okay to believe in the union of marriage, but it's also okay to know that God wouldn't want you to be unhappy.

Written By: Theresa Woods

Let's Stay Together

Love Drunk

When a man truly loves a woman, and a woman truly loves a man, they love deep, so deep that they can't eat nor sleep. They love hard, their love is….. Imperfect.

It’s so intense, it seems so wrong. They hate that they love each other so much, they grow apart, but they stay to figure it out. Love is stronger than pride. Obstacles are bigger than their issue. A love story? Fairy tales are for dreamers.

 

Lord, let them sleep, a happy ending is in need. Their body speaks, let’s make love now & so they do. You’re amazing, he says. Issue forgotten. Sex is a temporary fix, like a drug it consumes & overwhelms them. Love empowers them. They are love drunk. Always one, friends and lovers. God bless them & keep them. Amen.

 

Written by: Theresa Woods